Step Two - Confrontation
When you have accepted your substance abuse (in this case, alcohol) it is time to confront your behavior. Behavior is complex, and is determined by many factors. In psychology, we call them:
- Psychological factors
- Social factors
- Biological factors
Alcoholism is involved with all these factors to a high degree.
Psychological factors deals with how you think.
Social factors deals with your surroundings.
Biological factors deals with your body responses.
To confront the psychological factors you need to ask yourself:
"Am I really rational? If not, why am I not rational? Are there any fears or anxiety that make me irrational?" Ask yourself any questions that deals with your pattern of thinking.
To confront social factors you need to look at your environment:
"Are the people I hang with good for me? Am I suitable for this job? Should I relax more, or change my time-planning?" Try to make a big map of all your social contacts and activities to pinpoint the sources you need to work with, that cause you problems.
It is difficult to confront biological factors. By stopping drinking, you will feel abstinance. They will confront YOU, and you need to be brave to withstand the craving needs. It WILL pass.
- Jamie Lander
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Step 1 - Acceptance
Step One - Acceptance
The first thing you need to do is to accept that you are an alcoholic.
Acceptance is difficult, because it is usually seen as the same as failure. As long as you ignore something, denial, it is not a failure. You can fool yourself and others, but in the long run it will do damage to your body, yourself and your surroundings. Accepting this fact, is an achievement, and you should be very proud of making this acceptance.
Also try to accept the things you have done, and the damage you have done on yourself and others. It is a matter of moving on to something new, so you need to put the past behind you. Putting the past behind you, means that you have to deal with it, in order to get peace. When there is nothing more to deal with, close those chapters and start working on the next one. You will need the energy on your recovery.
- Jamie Lander
The first thing you need to do is to accept that you are an alcoholic.
Acceptance is difficult, because it is usually seen as the same as failure. As long as you ignore something, denial, it is not a failure. You can fool yourself and others, but in the long run it will do damage to your body, yourself and your surroundings. Accepting this fact, is an achievement, and you should be very proud of making this acceptance.
Also try to accept the things you have done, and the damage you have done on yourself and others. It is a matter of moving on to something new, so you need to put the past behind you. Putting the past behind you, means that you have to deal with it, in order to get peace. When there is nothing more to deal with, close those chapters and start working on the next one. You will need the energy on your recovery.
- Jamie Lander
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